LOMT is an acronym I just made up. It stands for Life On My Terms. Or your terms. Sounds wonderful, right? But just because it sounds wonderful, doesn’t mean it is wonderful. R. Kelly sounds wonderful….
Do you ever ask yourself, what am I doing with my life? Have I lost the plot. And my mind? Should I not be doing what everyone else is doing?
More and more research is highlighting the benefits of psychedelics and plant medicines for all sorts of healing.
I hope you’re not expecting a deep philosophical post on the meaning of life and how to not fuck it up. Because this is not that.
However, I will highlight one major problem most encounter with a few thoughts on how to counter it…
Show of hands who hates public speaking? Both of mine—and all ten fingers—are firmly in the air. The thought of it alone makes my testicles retreat—which is precisely why I signed up to the three-day intensive public speaking and improv workshop recently.
Some of the happiest people I know happen to work for someone else. They have a job they don’t necessarily love, but they certainly don’t hate. It challenges them enough, but not too much that it surpasses their stress threshold. There are few assholes in their life, and while they might not own a superyacht, they earn more than enough to not deal with the significant emotional stress that comes with a lack of finances.
A topic most shy away from. Now I know why. I've attempted to write this guide 50 times or so over the past few years. Each time I ripped it up and tossed it. Because I was trying to protect everyone's feelings while at the same time considering every possible circumstance because I'm hyper-aware of just how much guilt parents carry when it comes to their child's mental health.
If you’re constantly reading and chasing knowledge to better yourself, you’ll never get anywhere because you’re chasing perfection (which isn’t attainable). You’ll never penetrate the subconscious mind (because you lack patience. Not your fault), which is where all knowledge needs to sit for it to become wisdom.
Experience true presence… It’s not about running away from your problems. We’ll always have problems. It’s about taking a break from them. So you’re in better shape to tackle them. Seek out those moments in life — the ones where you feel truly present. Where you don’t have a care in the world. Where you’re truly alive.
A few months ago, I was giving a friend shit for crafting Instagram stories that his friends would see and envy. He turned to me and said, “you know what, I don’t know why I do it. It doesn’t make me feel very good.” To which I responded, “then stop.” It was all banter.
We can talk about this all day. You can read every self-help book and personal development article out there, watch every video, study all the science and ancient philosophies, but unless you decide you’re going to do something with that knowledge — it’s all useless.
Unless you are surrounded by first class assholes, it’s highly likely the biggest asshole in your life is yourself… Most people are abusive towards themselves. They hold themselves to ridiculous — often unattainable — standards and place themselves under tremendous pressure to over-achieve in every facet of life while continuously beating themselves up for not being Superman.
Depression and anxiety distorts cognition and gives people much more negative views that are warranted about themselves, other people, the world and the future. Problems loom larger and seem more pervasive. One's resources for dealing with those problems seem smaller, and ones perceived locus of control becomes more external. All of which discourages efforts to act vigorously to solve problems.
Don’t get me wrong, anxiety is the greatest bastard I’ve ever known. And don’t get me started on the rest of the crew. If they had a pulse, I’d beat them to death using the same ferociousness and brutality they use to destroy the minds of so many.